Why Men Don’t Do Therapy
There has been an increased amount of attention being paid these days to mental health and deservingly so. It remains a confounding illness because unlike physical ones you can’t see mental illness. While one in four people in the world will experience a mental or neurological illness nearly two-thirds will never seek treatment from a professional. This is especially true with men who would rather “suck it up” and keep it to themselves than even share it with their partner.
This brings me to an article from a few years back in Men’s Health titled “30 Excuses For Why Guys Don’t Do Therapy.” Here are the ones that stood out.
- There’s nothing wrong with me.
- Going to therapy means I’m weak.
- They’re just going to sit there and judge me. I’m not paying for that.
- I don’t want to complain.
- Once you start therapy, you’re never done.
- I don’t want to take any pills.
- What if my employer finds out? What if my friends find out? What if my spouse finds out and thinks it’s about them?
- Therapy is a rich person thing.
- Therapy is a young person thing.
- I don’t have the time to go sit somewhere and talk about my problems.
- I can’t do therapy, I’m the guy who is supposed to have my act together.
- Face it. I’ll just say it. I’m scared.
Men are often depressed and we don’t share it. We are also three times more likely to commit suicide than women. We need to treat mental health like we do our overall health and that may require a check-up…with a therapist.