Must We Wear Black?
Do you have a couple of suits or dresses that you call your “funeral outfits” ? I do. And I wore one of them Saturday to a Memorial Service for a family friend. It seemed I was in the minority. My black dress and jacket looked a bit out of place in a room full of lighter colors, jeans, cowboy boots and flip flops.
While I admit to being a bit surprised by the lack of traditional funeral attire, I was delighted to see a huge crowd in attendance. 200 people came to pay respects and tell stories about the deceased. Isn’t their presence more important than what they wore? I think so. Most of the time. But I can also see the other side; how putting some effort into a nice polished appearance can be a sign of respect for the grieving. Surely anyone can put up with a stiff jacket or high heels for a few hours, right?
I know times are changing. We are a much more casual society than we ever were. While the etiquette books still recommend dark colored, non-casual clothing, I think the important thing is that people show up to show their love and support.
What do you think? Is it okay for people to wear casual, colored clothing to a funeral home or memorial service?