As we mark the 3-month anniversary of the massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary school in Connecticut, many are asking how safe New Jersey Schools really are.

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"There isn't a lot that we could have done differently, and as we go through each day we are learning how resilient we are," Dr. Janet Robinson, Newtown Public School District Superintendent, said.

She says the only thing that's been learned from the pain from the massacre 3 months ago has been the support from the community.

Her advice to Garden State schools is simply that every school district "should have a security committee that includes a variety of stakeholders and whatever expertise the local police and fire departments can offer you and to keep the topic alive."

Dr. Robinson also point she believes it's dangerous for students to think they are only safe if there are "all these fortress type things available and armed guards there to protect them, but each community has to determine that, and find out what their comfort level will be."

Dr. Rich Bozza, the Executive Director of the New Jersey Association of School Administrators, says one idea that offers a great deal of promise is to develop a system so teachers and others in schools will be able to use smart phones, computers and iPad tablets to say where they are.

"That information will be transmitted immediately not only to school officials, but to local government and police officials. That could be very helpful."

Dr. Robinson adds the shooting is the worst nightmare imaginable.

"But we didn't even visualize it, so it couldn't have been a nightmare. We never thought we would have these kinds of things happen."

The all-day security conference was held in Edison.