Mom, “How Are You Doing?”; Sue’s Mommy Blog
It's such an important question for Mom's and Dad's, we need this right now.
I'm asking you, how are you? Is your family healthy? We are all in this together. Are you anything like me where this will be the first year in my life (almost 50) where I can't see my Mom for Thanksgiving. It breaks my heart. Covid-19 has ruined lives, normalcy, school, sports, shopping, movies, and everything else in between.
Let's face it, I'm going to just say it, "2020 sucks." If that's the hip way to say it?
Can you even imagine what it might be doing to our kids. With this second wave, we (Abby and I) know more people this time around that have the virus than before and it's scary. I see Abby asking more questions about it and it doesn't help that she loves "The Good Doctor" and "Grey's Anatomy" both opening their season with Covid-19. Abby is a teenager (WOW, still can't believe that) and I can't even imagine explaining this to a 7 year old. Abby gets it. But, she's a kid...they think they are invincible and I've heard her and her friends talking saying that they won't get it. Things have changed from the first wave. I actually see some fear in their eyes. They bring their mask around a little bit more and they're always thinking who's at that house and who they've been with. It breaks my heart that our kids, this generation, aren't carefree.
The phones are already in your face with everything and before I know something Abby already knows from TikTok. We wonder why our kids have anxiety. This is why. Everything is right in their face. And even if your child doesn't have a phone with social media on it, they're still finding out from their friends. So how do we keep a smile on our face and try to stay positive for our kids? When your child says, "Mom, Are you OK?" That's empathy, that's good and the fact that they're even noticing and feeling something when in this world, we all feel numb.
If your child is asking if you are OK, you are doing a great job. If you are lucky enough to get an "I love you" every day, you are doing a great job. And, if you're lucky enough to have your child sit next to you on the couch or at the table and just talk to you for 5 minutes or 30, you are doing a great job. We never give ourselves enough credit when it comes to being a Mom. Mom's are protectors, Mom's take care of everything, we are there for our kids when they're sick, happy, or just annoyed or angry. Our kids do notice.
Advice I give her - "No kissing" during Covid-19. She rolls her eyes. One day I'll miss those eyes rolling. Enjoy it, because even if this year "sucks" some things never change - empathy and kindness. Just no kissing, LOL. 💋💋
SUE'S MOMMY BLOG:
My daughter is the love of my life - fresh, funny, truly a wonderful little soul that brings me sunshine every day. She's now 14 and her life and what she does is just so funny, it’s too funny not to talk about or write about. It’s all about sharing our adventures with you. Time flies. Thanks for all of your advice through the years, Mom's we are never alone. I guess it should be "Sue's Mom Blog" since she's "so" grown up now, I'm totally laughing out loud at that.